The Art of Fear Why Conquering Fear Wont Work and What to Do Instead by Kristen Ulmer

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Several chapters of a sales pitch followed by a few pages of useful instructions. The pitch condemns everything and anybody for doing it wrong, including meditation and therapy; the instructions are so based on mindfulness and common therapy methods. The book can surely be useful but she has something to say for 20 pages non 300.

April fourteen, 2020 Jeremy rated information technology information technology was amazing

Notes:

+ Fright is part of you lot, so going to war with it is going to war with yourself
- Warring with your emotions is like putting a kink in a hose, it stops the menstruation of all emotions, including the pleasant ones

+ Repressed fear is the root of many problems
- When we lock fear in the basement (body), it gets more aggressive about getting its message across to us

+ Fear is the CEO, Thinking Mind is the COO
- Of form in that location is reason to be agape, the human being experience is sometimes vulnerable and terrifyi

Notes:

+ Fear is part of you lot, so going to war with it is going to war with yourself
- Warring with your emotions is like putting a kink in a hose, information technology stops the period of all emotions, including the pleasant ones

+ Repressed fear is the root of many bug
- When we lock fearfulness in the basement (trunk), it gets more than ambitious about getting its message across to us

+ Fear is the CEO, Thinking Mind is the COO
- Of course there is reason to exist agape, the human being experience is sometimes vulnerable and terrifying

+ "Let information technology exist" is more helpful than "Allow it go"
- Thoughts and feelings will come and become as they delight, so nosotros can't really let them go, only we can allow go of resistance to them, let become of clinging, let go of control

+ Practise do
- Breathe in fear and breathe out the hope of ever getting rid of it

+ Body awareness
- Noticing, zilch more than
- Not fixing, understanding, analyzing, questioning, or changing; but noticing
- This is physical intelligence

+ It takes two wings to fly
- Nosotros need light and dark emotions

+ Work on becoming a "Human-Being"
- Human (y'all are separate and don't experience okay): Thinking Mind labels and divides thoughts and feelings into good/bad, acceptable/unacceptable, okay/not okay
- Being (y'all are connected and feel okay): Across thoughts and feelings and the judgments of the Thinking Heed
- Man Existence (you are connected and across while too beingness carve up and finite; this is okay and not okay): Fully feel the okay and the not okay. Don't elevate the spiritual sense of connection over the human being feel of separateness. Y'all volition e'er come back down to world and this non-okayness is okay

Quotes:

[Becoming a warrior] is about turning away from your old belief that Fearfulness is a hindrance and instead walk in the opposite direction, toward recognizing that Fear is not only an asset and an marry, but 1 of the greatest experiences you'll accept in your lifetime.

Fear was but a simple emotion, a discomfort in her torso warning of danger, and that it just had her all-time interests in mind. Fear was never the trouble then; her reaction to Fright was the problem, making it hard for Fright to go its bulletin beyond or exercise its job. She saw how fighting it not only was a dead cease, but was actually causing all her horrific symptoms.

You are a corporation fabricated upwardly of 10,000 individual employees… Imagine that in this corporation called (Your Name), none of the x,000 employees know their job title, their job clarification, who'due south boss, or fifty-fifty what they're manufacturing. How well would that corporation run?... Fright is a big deal, because it'south usually the ringleader of the wildcat faction.

If left unchallenged (and it usually is), the Thinking Listen ultimately is who you lot believe yourself to be.

While, with endeavour, you lot may catch glimpses of something across your personal Ego/Thinking Listen, maybe even quite often, information technology doesn't affair: You will always come up back to it, once more and again. Your Ego is your homo fate. No one is without an Ego. And in that separation lies the source of Fright.

At that place's nada you can do about it, really. Everything you dear—whether it'due south people, passions, objects, states of being, or your sanity—will be taken away from you at some point, and not on your terms. And that's only downright terrifying… Separateness—non the Fear—is the "problem." The Fright is but the ultimate result.

Eventually, the fear of staying dissever forever overshadows the fear of rejection, and you pursue relationships despite the fact that y'all may be rejected (which, at some bespeak, y'all will exist).

There is no such matter every bit a practiced or bad emotion; there is only emotion. But if an emotion feels uncomfortable in a mode you don't similar, you call information technology a bad emotion.

You can command emotions about as much as you tin can control animate: a petty scrap, but non for long. Yous couldn't commit suicide by holding your breath—you'd simply pass out, and breathing would resume. The same applies to Fearfulness. The moment you drib your guard, Fear volition come up back. It'south every bit innate equally breathing. It cannot, will non, be denied for long.

Wanting to exist better, different, and other than yourself offers, on the 1 paw, dandy motivation to improve yourself. But there's a dark side to this drive. When we desire Fear to become away or be different, this suggests it'southward a problem that must be fixed. And since Fear is a office of you, that means you must exist fixed. If you demand to be stock-still, that ways you're broken. And then your attention becomes focused on how broken you are and what's wrong with you, which leads to toil, struggle, and shoddy self-esteem… If you lot don't like Fear, y'all don't like yourself.

Fear has now become the other that y'all need to fight or take flight from. Instead of the snake (the state of affairs) being the problem, Fear is now the trouble. The discomfort is the problem.

If there'southward a trouble in your life, any problem at all, I guarantee that your putting Fear in the basement has something to practice with it.

You may not fifty-fifty exist aware of Fear anymore; instead yous're but crazy jealous, gossip a lot, are shallow, or overeat. That'southward still Fear expressing itself, only in its twisted, covert style. Which is the merely style information technology speaks if it's in the basement.

Any seemingly unpleasant "bad" voice you lot won't wait at becomes your shadow, the darkness that follows yous everywhere, messing upward your life. And while you may have stopped noticing information technology, make no mistake: Everyone else can still encounter it.

If something is going wrong in your life, the simply question to enquire is: What nighttime shadow about yourself are you unwilling to look at and own? And, more of import, what latent Fear are y'all refusing to acknowledge?

Each voice in your corporation has great wisdom, and great mirage—every single one. As you're learning, if a vocalization is repressed, only its delusion comes out. But when any vocalism is taken out of the basement and owned and honored, only its wisdom comes out.

Recognize that yous're powerless over Fearfulness and Anger. Could you exercise that? You'd accept to stop trying to control and instead experience and experience these emotions when they bear witness up.

The energy of the cut-off emotion has to go somewhere, and it sure as heck doesn't become into the temper. Emotion is felt in the torso, so when halted, it temporarily gets stored in the body.

There's no such thing as overwhelming Fright. Fearfulness is just Fear, it's not overwhelming. But if you've been in a battle with Fearfulness that you can't win, the battle is what becomes overwhelming.

Stress and Anxiety are not the bodily problem—trying to command or "solve" the Stress and Feet is the real problem, and the underlying cause backside the excessive symptoms.

If given the selection, would you rather feel happy or alive?

You can't selectively repress an emotion without inadvertently repressing all emotions.

When Fear shows up, or any vox not in line with what the Controller or the Will wants, it kinks the hose. And Flow immediately stops.

Emotions are meant to be energy in movement, felt in the trunk.

​The more you try to get rid of Fearfulness, the more afraid you'll experience. The more you try to get rid of Anger, the angrier you'll feel.

"Paradox [is] Truth standing on her head to get attending." G. K. Chesterton

Suffering = Discomfort ten Resistance

"A fool thinks himself to exist wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." Shakespeare

Empower [your emotions] and show them respect; then they won't have to operate covertly, in a twisted way, from the basement. They volition seem radically unlike in an instant, and come out the contrary of how yous've been experiencing them. They'll become wise assets and allies, operating in a mature fashion, giving you great insight, motivation, and clear vision.

If your agenda is to "comprehend Fright as a style to get rid of information technology," that'southward another course of trying to conquer Fear, and Fright is besides smart for that crap.

Your Thinking Mind is not the right tool for the job of feeling your emotions. But you will try to apply information technology anyway. Why is that? This vocalisation rules your life, that's why. It volition endeavor to rule this problem, also, but I assure you lot information technology is the wrong vocalism.

Requite upwardly all hope of ever controlling Fear; only so you tin can start to experience, and get-go to heal.

Yous didn't overcome the Fear; Fear is what made the whole experience thrilling. Y'all overcame the situation… The proper way to describe going through an experience that is challenging, then, is that you enjoyed the Fear. Not that you overcame it.

Information technology's the Trunk'south job to feel, not the Mind's. Get this at your cadre. Your mind thinks. Your Body feels. Which is why y'all must stop thinking about Fright, in social club to feel Fearfulness.

You do not awaken past thinking about spirituality; it is something yous must physically experience. You lot do non experience your emotions past thinking most them; y'all take to travel to and live in the place where they exist. Which is in the Body.

"I hear and I forget. I meet and I call up. I do and I understand." Unknown

Which wins: what the mind says or what the Body does?

Beingness willing to feel and even embody something you would usually avoid is the holy grail of life'due south practice.

Ask Fearfulness, "What are you lot afraid of, and what exercise you see that I don't, that I'm non dealing with?" This is the key to liberty. Whatever you lot won't expect at is e'er the key to freedom… If y'all find the questions hard, simply find that you've shifted into the voice of the One Trying to Figure It Out, or the voice of Defoliation, neither of which will exist able to answer the questions. Merely shift back and start again. If Fright is however there and wants to speak, simply exist Fearfulness, and let it speak for itself. Move how it moves. It will find its own answers.

"Step by step… I can't run into whatsoever other way of accomplishing annihilation." Michael Hashemite kingdom of jordan

The more you allow Fear to speak, the less it will have to say, and the less of a hold information technology volition take on y'all. It's that simple.

Go into whatever voice and spend time in that location, letting it be, and you will e'er organically come out the other side to a identify of freedom.

Fear is not the problem; Resistance to Fear is the problem.

Which is easier: swimming upstream, or flowing with the river? Both resisting and embracing require try. Just once more I ask: Which requires less effort to become a better result?

"The sun never says to the earth, 'You owe me.' And look what happens with a dear like that. Information technology lights up the whole heaven." Hafiz

Accepting Fearfulness is non the same as honoring it. Information technology'south crucial that you empathize the difference, because it's huge.

"There are simply two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is equally though everything is a phenomenon." Albert Einstein

"Worshiping" is some other word for "surrendering to."

Mental intelligence does non offer the solution to everything. Nor is it the only access to sensation we possess. So while indeed your intellect is a staggering tool, and without it we couldn't function, if worshiped lone, it can go your greatest weakness. You lose impact with what else is available.

Using your intellect to talk and call back about, evaluate, and control your emotions is not "emotional intelligence." Emotions being a huge part of what makes us human, emotional intelligence is, rather, your ability to place, experience, and express your emotions in a useful, artistic, and mature way.

Step past step, Fear will motivate you out of your stuck identify and also pull yous into the next level of your potential.

Fear + Breathing = Excitement

Is it really an chance if there'due south no Fear?

Life with Fear is raw, real, and beautiful.

We're all going to die, so why not actually live while you're here? Come alive with Fearfulness. Let it open your heart to the full opportunity and meaning of what it ways to feel, to exist fully present, and to be fully human.

You know y'all can get to ecstasy by intimately connecting in Love with another person. But perchance you lot don't know you can go there when you accept an intimate connection with anything. Fifty-fifty pain. Even discomfort.

If you took the fear of failure out of the equation, there would be no excitement. The claiming would exist eradicated. The reward of completing a task well done would finish.

Anger that shows upwardly without integrity is poisonous Acrimony, and a clear sign that Fear and Anger have been repressed.

I own this free energy. It's mine. Information technology comes from me. I am non a victim to it, but instead made powerful because of it.

When someone is good for you, it means that both the practiced and the (perceived) bad voices are working together.

Loneliness makes Dearest more poignant.

Sometimes you want Fearfulness. So turn up the knob. Say yep to the spoken language. Fall in love. Sometimes you want Peace. Say no to the speech. Stay single.

Fearlessness is not the absence of Fear—information technology's found by experiencing Peace with Fear.

If you feel afraid—or, more usually, have fears (of something) that involve a story, belief, and thought—y'all're in your head. If you feel free energy and excitement, yous are in your Body. The Torso that exists in the present moment, with no by or future, no story, belief, or thought, is a state of pure, unjudging awareness, truth, and energy.

Connexion to the universe will e'er be lost. The Zone is merely meant to be temporary.

In that location actually is a higher place than spiritual intelligence, one that includes but isn't limited past it… Truthful Enlightenment is the pursuit and ongoing effort to include all states, seeing and owning all the voices that make you lot human, and doing your best to flow with them.

Your chore in this lifetime is to become fully Homo. Which means doing your all-time to experience and be all 10,000 voices—in detail Fearfulness, because it volition assist aggrandize y'all to the biggest you lot possible. This is bang-up news. When in Flow, these employees could also be called the 10,000 motivators or the 10,000 energies.

Can I do my all-time to radically encompass and merge with all that arrives moment to moment? Can I make my life my practice?

Instead of spending your whole life fighting who y'all are, now y'all can get downwards to the epic, wild, uncomfortable, absurd, ignorant, delusional, and wonderful business organization of… just being who you are.

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It is extremely rare that I choose not to end a book. In this case, I just couldn't force myself through the unfocused ramblings I was being subjected to. Just similar the slaloms the author so blissfully navigated in her prime, I feel her approach to this topic is in the aforementioned manner. All over and unfocused, she attempts to assign analogies to her descriptions. Not only practice they fall flat, but they are inconsistent within themselves.

I would NOT recommend this book to anyone looking to accept a prac

It is extremely rare that I choose not to finish a book. In this case, I simply couldn't force myself through the unfocused ramblings I was being subjected to. Just like the slaloms the author then blissfully navigated in her prime, I feel her approach to this topic is in the same manner. All over and unfocused, she attempts to assign analogies to her descriptions. Not only practise they fall flat, simply they are inconsistent inside themselves.

I would Non recommend this book to anyone looking to accept a applied approach to the topic of fear. The author used her "fear" to go a "fix" and used it as an excuse to discipline herself to an abusive relationship in which she rewarded her abuser out of some sense of chasing a loftier. Possibly she spent too much fourth dimension in high altitudes where oxygen deprivation is sometimes the king of the mount.

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Jul 25, 2018 Joyce rated it actually liked it

Kickoff off, I got a lot out of this book. Ulmer challenges the idea that we tin conquer fear -- as a product of the "cadger brain," it is stronger than anything the neocortex has going -- and then we should understand what its purpose is (to be afraid) and what to do virtually it (feel it, and move on). Much of the book focuses on the encephalon structure and how the brain works, which I constitute fascinating.

I did discover, though, that the further I went in the book, the weirder information technology got. About 3/four of the way thro

Start off, I got a lot out of this volume. Ulmer challenges the idea that we can conquer fear -- every bit a product of the "cadger brain," it is stronger than annihilation the neocortex has going -- and so we should empathize what its purpose is (to be afraid) and what to do about information technology (feel information technology, and motility on). Much of the book focuses on the brain structure and how the encephalon works, which I institute fascinating.

I did observe, though, that the further I went in the book, the weirder information technology got. Nearly 3/4 of the way through I said, OK, that'due south enough, and alleged myself done.

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This is a really interesting book near learning to comprehend fear, rather than trying to get rid of information technology or act like it isn't at that place. I was unfamiliar with the author's sports career (being generally ignorant of all things sports) and the anecdotes are great. She points out that fear is necessary in our lives - we could dice without it, and so treating information technology similar a red-headed stepchild actually makes things worse. Many times we're not even afraid of the situation, we're afraid of fear the emotion that comes This is a really interesting book nearly learning to embrace fear, rather than trying to get rid of it or human activity like information technology isn't there. I was unfamiliar with the author's sports career (being more often than not ignorant of all things sports) and the anecdotes are great. She points out that fear is necessary in our lives - nosotros could die without information technology, then treating information technology like a red-headed stepchild actually makes things worse. Many times we're not even afraid of the situation, we're afraid of fear the emotion that comes out in the situation. Fright gives us energy and drive.

Where the author gets into trouble is when she steps out from discussing fears and the ways in which we tin encompass information technology (as well every bit all our other many and necessary emotions) and talks most topics like medication, therapy and meditation, since she conspicuously doesn't have much of a background here. She parrots the common line that antidepressants numb all emotions, only that is simply not true for everyone - for many people in the depths of clinical depression, antidepressants bring them back to life. She besides doesn't seem to understand the ways in which some types of therapy (such every bit cerebral beliefs therapy) actually back up her idea of embracing fear, and similarly that meditation helps people notice their emotions, which is necessary to take the next step of actually welcoming the fearfulness and other emotions.

In other words, the discussion about emotions and the of import part they play in our lives is well worth reading, simply it's probably best to skip her opinions about other ways to work through some of these bug.

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Author rudely dismisses all other therapy methods & provides no objective evidence that her own work. Anecdotal 'evidence' from her ain larger-than-life experiences make her sound like she's got a stick up her arse. She's produced 500 pages of unstructured ramblings with only a few helpful sentences thrown in hither & there. Author rudely dismisses all other therapy methods & provides no objective prove that her own piece of work. Anecdotal 'bear witness' from her own larger-than-life experiences make her sound like she's got a stick up her arse. She'southward produced 500 pages of unstructured ramblings with only a few helpful sentences thrown in hither & there. ...more

Likewise much fluff and not enough substance. Pretty repetitive, although it is definitely useful in parts. Probably could have been almost a quarter of the length and had a more powerful bear on without all the extra stories and examples that did more to confuse than to enlighten.

It was crap. 300 pages and she didn't say anything

Jul 22, 2017 Cindy Roesel rated it actually liked it

I've grown upwards believing that one is either motivated by dear or fear. Of grade, nosotros feel both in our lives, only I know I'm not a fright-based person. I believe I'm influenced by dear and try to focus on the positive. Information technology's a daily exercise to go on one'due south heed in that frame and not let the negativity around united states of america, influence our mind and behavior. (Of course, a expert cocktail of anti-depressants can fix that, right abroad.)
A new book past Kristen Ulmer, THE ART of FEAR (HarperWave) argues fearfulness is misund I've grown up assertive that one is either motivated by love or fear. Of class, nosotros experience both in our lives, merely I know I'm not a fear-based person. I believe I'm influenced by dear and try to focus on the positive. It's a daily exercise to keep one's mind in that frame and non let the negativity around united states of america, influence our listen and behavior. (Of form, a good cocktail of anti-depressants can fix that, right away.)
A new book by Kristen Ulmer, THE ART of FEAR (HarperWave) argues fear is misunderstood. That we often ignore it, push past it or somehow overcome it, in society to not bargain with it. Ulmer believes that by acknowledging and embracing our fearfulness, we can use it to our benefit and turn it into a positive forcefulness in our lives.
Kristin Ulmer knows fear really well. She was recognized every bit the best extreme skier in the world for twelve years, at which fourth dimension she knew she could get incredibly injured or die every time she put on her skis. In her chit-chatty book, she argues that fear isn't intended to crusade us problems, that in fact, the simply true issue we face with fearfulness is our misguided reaction to it.
Ulmer starts her volume by explaining why we've come to view fear as something negative. She gives us the tools to turn our thinking around making fear just one of the any other voices in our head. The tools she teaches explicate how we can acquire to alive with fear in the same way nosotros live with joy, love and gratitude. It'southward all about a mindfulness tool she calls an attitude "shift."  This style, Ulmer says we can experience fear in a simpler, more authentic way, transforming our relationship with this emotion and living with our truthful nature, instead of letting it drain us.
Reading through her book, one learns it'due south taken Kristen 15 years as a mindset facilitator to come to this signal. So if you're thinking well-nigh trying this out, don't look results overnight. But I think anything that leads to a happier, healthier more than expansive life is certainly worth giving a shot. ...more than

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view information technology, click hither. I was going to give this book a 3 star review until the very last folio of the book. Aye this book gives some insightful perspectives on fear as well as other emotions that are truthfully continued and effected past fear itself. Which is why i felt the book should receive at least 3 stars. I accept to give her a nod on the way she approaches the idea of fear and how nosotros tin can meliorate our human relationship with our emotions.

HOWEVER, at that place are a lot of crappy things about this volume. For starters, she rants on a

I was going to requite this book a 3 star review until the very last page of the book. Yes this book gives some insightful perspectives on fear likewise as other emotions that are truthfully connected and effected by fear itself. Which is why i felt the book should receive at least iii stars. I have to give her a nod on the way she approaches the idea of fearfulness and how nosotros can better our relationship with our emotions.

All the same, there are a lot of crappy things about this volume. For starters, she rants on and on about things that don't connect well with the topic and yous become either lost or uninterested in the bespeak she tries to make. This book was 300 pages long and she could take hands made it nether 150 pages.

She also writes with a pretty big ego and you tin can tell that her research is adequately underwhelming because of how she clearly assumes things nearly certain practices without real knowledge of them.

If yous desire to know the unabridged signal of the volume that can be completed in i sentence, it's that you should take time to feel the emotion and inquire information technology questions about why it feels how it does instead of trying to repress it. This eventually minimizes the agree that the emotions (generally fear) accept over y'all.

I thought that despite how poorly this book was written, that would enough be worth iii stars. But, and then at the end of the book this lady writes that she still has a complicated relationship with fear and tin can't even sleep through the whole night…

I'm in my seat, cracking up right now, because the whole volume she was proclaiming how freeing her techniques and letters were!!

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Jul 16, 2020 Fall rated it really liked it

This book provided me with some very helpful means to address my issues with stress, anxiety and fearfulness. The idea of a person being the CEO of x,000 employees (our various emotions, thoughts and minds) really spoke to me and my own existential struggle. I actually loved her suggestion that we demand to encompass these 10,000 employees as a good parent would his/her own children. Instead of immediately judging our thoughts and emotions equally "expert" or "bad" or desperately trying to ignore or suppress This book provided me with some very helpful ways to address my problems with stress, feet and fearfulness. The idea of a person being the CEO of 10,000 employees (our various emotions, thoughts and minds) really spoke to me and my own existential struggle. I really loved her suggestion that we demand to embrace these ten,000 employees equally a good parent would his/her own children. Instead of immediately judging our thoughts and emotions every bit "proficient" or "bad" or desperately trying to ignore or suppress them, we need to welcome them and fully hear them out. I also found the thought of catamenia and allowing our bodies to experience our emotions, feelings and thoughts, both the "skillful" and the "bad," very useful. Another plus is that she addresses her topic in a non "woo woo" way, then information technology makes these ideas accessible to people who don't subscribe to a mindfulness directed way of working on the self. This book will definitely be helpful to someone even if they don't buy into a meditation/mindfulness practise. ...more

Jun 11, 2018 Michele rated it information technology was astonishing

Wow! Loved it! Information technology took awhile for me to resonate with what Kristen teaches. I even considered not finishing the book, merely there was just enough to go on me reading. I would put the book down and option up a dissimilar book I was reading at the same time to clear my caput. But, I wanted to "hear" what Kristen was saying, so I would "chew" on the ideas. Then, about halfway through, we started talking the aforementioned language and I started actually "getting" the idea of honoring fearfulness and decided to attempt it while Wow! Loved it! It took awhile for me to resonate with what Kristen teaches. I even considered not finishing the book, but at that place was merely enough to go on me reading. I would put the book downward and pick upward a unlike volume I was reading at the same fourth dimension to clear my caput. But, I wanted to "hear" what Kristen was saying, so I would "chew" on the ideas. So, about halfway through, nosotros started talking the same linguistic communication and I started actually "getting" the idea of honoring fear and decided to try information technology while doing doughnuts on a seadoo. Asking myself "what am I feeling at present" and "now" and, how nigh "at present". I am loving the new awareness and acceptance and feel of my feelings, even when the feelings are simply related to mundane concerns. I highly recommend this book. ...more than

May 12, 2021 PabloPig rated information technology it was amazing

This is a very well written volume that juxtaposes the personal experience of the writer with the explanations of the nature of fear and of what we tin practice to come to grips with it. Information technology is not sporadic rambling as some reviewers here seem to think. By alternating personal accounts with discursive material, Kristen Ulmer draws the reader into the center of the trouble, which is the common misunderstanding of the nature and function of fear.

I listened to the audio version, well read by Jane Oppenheime

This is a very well written book that juxtaposes the personal feel of the author with the explanations of the nature of fear and of what we can do to come to grips with information technology. It is not sporadic rambling every bit some reviewers hither seem to think. By alternating personal accounts with discursive cloth, Kristen Ulmer draws the reader into the heart of the trouble, which is the common misunderstanding of the nature and office of fear.

I listened to the sound version, well read by Jane Oppenheimer who brings to the text energy and urgency.

I have read a good number of books on psychology and spirituality, and discover that this one contributes something new and of import. Information technology is i of the few books I felt impelled to give to friends.

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May 16, 2021 A.M. rated it liked information technology

An extreme skier knows almost fear, right? The matter is, she knows nigh information technology from a side most people don't experience. Manner out on the far side of fear.

And it did her no favours.

She'south brutally honest about her life, her mistakes, and her experiences.

And this title is of grade, a tie in to her new career of life autobus. Her thought is that you lot cannot defeat fear; and to try and live without information technology would brand you feel ... goose egg. The merely way you tin can walk across the fire is if you experience the fear, your feet

An extreme skier knows nigh fright, right? The thing is, she knows about it from a side about people don't experience. Way out on the far side of fright.

And information technology did her no favours.

She's brutally honest virtually her life, her mistakes, and her experiences.

And this championship is of grade, a necktie in to her new career of life motorcoach. Her idea is that you cannot defeat fearfulness; and to try and live without it would make y'all feel ... nothing. The just way you tin walk across the burn down is if you lot feel the fear, your anxiety sweat, and protect you from the hot dress-down. Feel no fearfulness and your anxiety get burnt.

Her writing style is quite distinctive and the text is interspersed with asides, stories and quotes.

3 stars

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Nov 21, 2021 Max rated it it was ok

It was difficult to rate it. I decided for 2 stars instead of 3 as the at least 100 pages became so repetitive . She had something to say but inside 100 pages non 300…. I as well disagree with some general critics she made about psycho therapy, also as she takes out a couple of theories from it to build her „ain" concept of emotional intelligence…

Besides this she had some good thoughts taking a lot from Buddism and simmilar ares. In general this means don't avert your emotions Worthisp them fifty-fifty t

It was difficult to rate it. I decided for 2 stars instead of 3 as the at least 100 pages became and so repetitive . She had something to say but within 100 pages not 300…. I also disagree with some general critics she made about psycho therapy, also every bit she takes out a couple of theories from information technology to build her „own" concept of emotional intelligence…

Besides this she had some good thoughts taking a lot from Buddism and simmilar ares. In general this means don't avoid your emotions Worthisp them fifty-fifty the unpleasant once, specially fear . The message is right and gave me at least some other view on an one-time and important topic

Note: I read in English and made the review in English too but I am a not a native English language speaker, so sorry for all mistakes.

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I tin can count on one hand the number of books I oasis't been able to, at the very least, toil through to the end. But I just actually couldn't do this one. A few of the most basic, underlying ideas could be useful for some self-improvement if you're in a reflective mood - but these could be gleaned from the dust cover alone. The only parts I genuinely enjoyed were the inset stories almost her skiing. The rest I institute to be a maddening and ceaseless stream of mixed metaphors and humorously bad parable I tin count on ane hand the number of books I haven't been able to, at the very least, toil through to the end. Only I just really couldn't practice this one. A few of the about basic, underlying ideas could exist useful for some self-improvement if you lot're in a reflective mood - but these could be gleaned from the dust cover alone. The simply parts I genuinely enjoyed were the inset stories about her skiing. The residue I found to be a maddening and ceaseless stream of mixed metaphors and humorously bad parables combined with what I retrieve is some genuinely concerning stuff regarding her opinions on therapy & science. ...more

Finally! A self-help book that doesn't autumn back in meditation and "just breathing" as the solution to all of your inner turmoil problems.

If yous bargain with anxiety, struggle to understand and recognize emotions, or are just tired of the constant flow of nonsense self-help books, I highly recommend this book.

Kristen Ulmer shares her ain strategies in dealing with fearfulness and other emotions that we tend to perceive in a negative light. As she is a highly achieved athlete and professional in her o

Finally! A self-help book that doesn't fall back in meditation and "just breathing" as the solution to all of your inner turmoil problems.

If you deal with anxiety, struggle to sympathise and recognize emotions, or are just tired of the constant flow of nonsense self-help books, I highly recommend this volume.

Kristen Ulmer shares her ain strategies in dealing with fear and other emotions that we tend to perceive in a negative light. Every bit she is a highly accomplished athlete and professional in her own life, it is much easier to lend acceptance to her claims than information technology is with many authors of psychology books.

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This book is Zen with the attitude of a former extreme skier—which the author is. The showtime half reads like an EST session, where the author is calling out all your contradictions, and hers. Information technology also feels like a buildup that makes yous wonder: Is this just hype or she going to deliver the promised key to enlightenment? The second half of the book does offer some thought exercises that, if done seriously, really seem to offer a way of getting in affect with all your feelings in a very useful style. I This book is Zen with the attitude of a sometime extreme skier—which the author is. The beginning half reads like an EST session, where the author is calling out all your contradictions, and hers. It too feels similar a buildup that makes y'all wonder: Is this just hype or she going to deliver the promised cardinal to enlightenment? The second one-half of the book does offer some thought exercises that, if done seriously, really seem to offering a fashion of getting in touch with all your feelings in a very useful fashion. I learned something here, and see a way to keep learning. Give thanks you lot! ...more

November 12, 2018 Yoric rated it information technology was ok

I similar this concept, that fear comes from our perception of separation. (the reverse of wholeness).
This means if we could take power over our fears with condign more aware of being continued.

With this inevitable separation, everything and everybody—which are no longer part of you—go unfamiliar and unknown. And because y'all don't know what they are or what they're up to, you are now vulnerable to them, and they tin hurt yous.

"For the story of your dance with Fear is the story of your life"

I'm not certain whether I agreed with everything in this volume, but continued reading out of sheer respect for the author. Constitute information technology and then interesting to read near the places and experiences she has been to and through and how central Fear was to her and how it has and always volition be her greatest love.

Aug 30, 2017 Kristy rated it liked it

I enjoyed this volume although I felt myself getting lost at times. I wish at that place were summaries at the end of the chapters with key takeaways. I loved how there were little stories intertwined along the fashion

The concept of the book..embracing all your emotions and learning to take and be yourself in each sense is great. It only didn't need to take so long to say it and didn't demand all the swearing and rough life examples. The concept of the volume..embracing all your emotions and learning to take and be yourself in each sense is great. Information technology only didn't need to take so long to say it and didn't need all the swearing and rough life examples. ...more than

information technology'due south been a rollercoaster, reading this book, just similar how my relationship with fear will exist similar from at present on. there volition exist bad times, skillful times, merely this book taught me that it'southward okay to have fear. it's time to create a loving relationship with fear. no more repression. information technology's been a rollercoaster, reading this volume, just similar how my relationship with fright will be like from now on. there will exist bad times, good times, but this book taught me that it's okay to have fearfulness. it'southward time to create a loving relationship with fear. no more repression. ...more

Mar x, 2019 Seth Thomson rated it did non similar it

Get-go book I've put down for awhile. The entire first half reads similar a redundant sales pitch, and the writing is non engaging. The bashing of all other methods is a clear alert sign. The cutesy apply of "10,000 voices" and the proverb you are the feeling aloud did not reach me. Unsubscribe.

I got through ii/3 of this book and just nothing resonated. I recall it would exist skillful for someone who has never done any self help but, but not for me. Wayyy too many metaphors including entering a twerking competition.

Just not for me.

Mar 15, 2021 Ieva Luske rated information technology it was amazing

The volume that just blew my heed. It offers refreshing, new perspectives on fear and how we should savour it instead of overcoming information technology. Honestly, this book changed the fashion I bargain with my emotions. Bright!!

Oct 15, 2018 Alison rated it liked it

Nothing new to learn except the stories of the author'southward addiction to, peckish for and devouring of fright. Nothing new to learn except the stories of the writer's habit to, craving for and devouring of fright. ...more than

Feb 21, 2020 Kenneth Ng rated it information technology was amazing

I enjoyed this book for its ideas, not its writing or way. Ideas were original and something I practice to this day.

Kristen Ulmer is thought leader, facilitator and fearfulness specialist who radically challenges existing norms around the subject of this securely misunderstood emotion.

Having spent 15 years being labeled fearless by the outdoor industry—named the all-time woman extreme skier in the globe for 12 of those years and voted the North American nearly extreme woman athlete in all disciplines—Ulmer seeks to end our h

Kristen Ulmer is idea leader, facilitator and fear specialist who radically challenges existing norms around the bailiwick of this deeply misunderstood emotion.

Having spent xv years being labeled fearless by the outdoor industry—named the all-time woman extreme skier in the world for 12 of those years and voted the North American most extreme adult female athlete in all disciplines—Ulmer seeks to end our humanity-wide war against fear, which will non just resolve many mutual, epidemic problems we confront, just allow us the greatest risk to attain our whole-mind potential. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, NPR, More Magazine, Outside Mag (4 times), and United states of america Today (4 times) to name only a few.

Her book; The Art of Fearfulness; Why Conquering Fear Won't Work and What to Do Instead, will be released on June 13, 2017.

Ulmer lives in Table salt Lake Metropolis, Utah with her hubby Kirk Jellum and their ii savannah cats.

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